{"id":4296,"date":"2017-11-19T09:00:40","date_gmt":"2017-11-19T15:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.barbdahlgren.com\/?p=4296"},"modified":"2017-07-25T22:36:14","modified_gmt":"2017-07-26T03:36:14","slug":"choose-not-to-have-false-guilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/barbdahlgren.com\/?p=4296","title":{"rendered":"Choose Not to Have False Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"

One More Year of Choices<\/em><\/p>\n

By Barbara Dahlgren<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"Jesus came so we could have life, and have it more abundantly. (John 10:10) This is not referring to health and wealth. It\u2019s telling us that Jesus came to give us eternal life, plus we have an even more abundant life while here on earth, because Jesus resides in us. We have a relationship with Him.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, there are factors wanting to hinder that relationship. The first part of John 10:10 says there is a thief who comes to kill, destroy, and steal. So there are thieves trying steal that relationship with Jesus from us. I think one of those thieves is false guilt.<\/p>\n

I like to classify guilt into two categories: real guilt and false guilt.<\/p>\n

For the Christian, real guilt comes from going against our conscience. We want our conscience in agreement with God\u2019s standard. Then it can let us know when we\u2019ve blown it or sinned. At these times, it is only natural to feel remorse for what we\u2019ve done. Real guilt helps us acknowledge when we\u2019ve done something wrong, but it doesn\u2019t condemn us to a life-sentence of punishment, like Satan would have us believe. (John 3:17; Romans 8 1-2) We bring these mistakes before God and He forgives us. (Ephesians 1:7; Psalm 32:1-2) He remembers our sins no more. (Hebrews 8:14)<\/p>\n

However, false guilt is different. False guilt comes from us not living up to our own standard of righteousness, not God\u2019s. We might feel guilty because we ate fast food, don\u2019t pray enough, don\u2019t study our Bibles enough, aren\u2019t involved at church, need to lose weight, don\u2019t serve at the homeless shelter, or haven\u2019t called our parents in a week. These feelings are painful, but it\u2019s not real guilt, which is the result of not living up to God\u2019s standards. It\u2019s false guilt trying to masquerade itself as real guilt because these are our own self-imposed standards.<\/p>\n

For example, let\u2019s say we feel guilty because we don\u2019t study our Bibles enough every day. How much time does God say we should spend on personal Bible study every day? Well, He doesn\u2019t really say, does He? There are biblical principles to study God\u2019s Word but God gives us the freedom to decide how often and how long. We might want to set a standard of so much Bible study a day, but we have to realize this is our standard, not God\u2019s. So there should be no real guilt connected to it if we fall short of our own expectation. This would be false guilt because we haven\u2019t done anything wrong.<\/p>\n

Another example might be feeling guilty because we didn\u2019t give enough in the offering plate last week. How much money does God say we should give as an offering each week? Well, He doesn\u2019t really say, does He? The Old Testament had a specific tithing command but the New Testament does not. However, there is a biblical principle of giving to God and of generosity. However, we have the freedom to decide how much, to whom, and so on. We might want to give more than ten percent. We aren\u2019t limited in what we do in this area. Actually the amount we give is not as important as how we give it anyway \u2013 from the heart. We have the freedom to decide how much.<\/p>\n

The Old Covenant was all about lists of \u201cdo’s and don\u2019ts.\u201d The New Covenant is about Jesus living His resurrected life in us. We do not earn salvation; it is a free gift.<\/p>\n

Consider this\u2026 The Bible tells us that problems occurred when Christians wanted to impose the Old Testament practice of circumcision on new Gentile converts. They tried to make the Gentiles feel like they weren\u2019t Christians unless they got circumcised. Major guilt trip! Paul had to set them straight. (Galatians 5:2) Is circumcision wrong? Of course not! But it is not necessary for salvation.<\/p>\n

In so many areas of our lives God gives us the freedom to decide, using biblical principles as guides \u2013 without condemnation. Someone else might try to put us on a guilt trip because we don\u2019t want to teach Sunday School, serve on the PTA, or run in a marathon for cancer, but God does not. There is freedom in Christ. We can\u2019t do everything, so God gave us the freedom to prayerfully decide what to do and what not to do, without feeling guilty.<\/p>\n

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Suggestions for practicing this choice\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

There is a line between being guilty and feeling guilty. Beware of legalism, which is designed to make us feel guilty because we don\u2019t measure up. Legalism invents rules that go way beyond what God intended.<\/p>\n

Get over the \u201cnot doing enough\u201d syndrome. We will never be able to \u201cdo enough!\u201d<\/p>\n

Be wary of spiritual teachers who always want you to earn your salvation by doing more, more, more.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to motivate others by putting them on a guilt trip. You don\u2019t like it when it\u2019s done to you, so don\u2019t do it to others.<\/p>\n

The way to cope with true guilt is to admit your mistakes, say you\u2019re sorry, try to make amends, repent, change, and move on. True guilt was not designed to hold us captive, just hold us accountable. Even when we try to make amends, others may not forgive us. We may have to learn to live with that. Fortunately, God does forgive.<\/p>\n

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