{"id":4290,"date":"2017-11-12T09:00:21","date_gmt":"2017-11-12T15:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.barbdahlgren.com\/?p=4290"},"modified":"2017-07-24T17:19:41","modified_gmt":"2017-07-24T22:19:41","slug":"choose-to-not-be-selfish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/barbdahlgren.com\/?p=4290","title":{"rendered":"Choose to Not Be Selfish"},"content":{"rendered":"

One More Year of Choices<\/em><\/p>\n

By Barbara Dahlgren<\/em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"When God encourages us to be giving instead of selfish, it may appear He is just looking out for the other guy. However, scientific research shows that when we give to others, our brain activity in the temporoparietal (easy for you to say???) junction and ventral striatum increases. These are the areas where our feelings of pleasure and happiness come from. Just a pledge to help others produces a warm glow of happiness and contentment. God is truly amazing. He puts systems in place that benefit both the giver and receiver. It\u2019s a win\/win scenario.<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t have to be brain surgeons (although it might help) to know that the way of give is better than the way of get. No wonder we are told to let nothing be done in selfishness. (Philippians 2:3) Selfishness is listed as one of the works of the flesh. (Galatians 5:20) It leads to unwise decisions. (Proverbs 18:1) It makes us pray those \u201cgive me, give me, give me\u201d prayers, which do not bring good fruit. (James 4:3) Selfish people can be greedy, unthankful, proud, arrogant, and so on. (2 Timothy 3:2-5) Psychologists tell us that selfishness is a self-destructive habit. It can even lead to war. (James 4:1)<\/p>\n

However, sometimes it\u2019s difficult not to focus on ourselves. After all, it\u2019s a me, me, me society. So selfishness is something we must battle against daily.<\/p>\n

We can usually spot selfish people because most of what they say uses words like \u201cI,\u201d \u201cme,\u201d and \u201cmine.\u201d They don\u2019t really have a spirit of humility. They aren\u2019t interested in listening to someone else\u2019s problems as much as promoting their own thoughts. When asked to help, they might think, \u201cWhat\u2019s in it for me?\u201d They are more interested in being served than serving.<\/p>\n

Consider this\u2026 Jesus came to serve, not to be served. (Matthew 20:28)<\/p>\n

God says our focus should be on others. We aren\u2019t to please ourselves as much as look out for the well-being of others. (Romans 15:1-3; 1 Corinthians 10:24) We are to help others bear their burdens. (Galatians 6:2) Yes, God tells us to look out for our own interests, but mostly He tells us to think about others. (Philippians 2:4)<\/p>\n

So let\u2019s keep that brain activity moving in the right direction. Who knew that happiness comes by giving, not getting? Hmm\u2026 What\u2019s the answer? Oh yes… God knew! (Acts 20:35)<\/p>\n

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Suggestions for practicing this choice\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

When feeling selfish (and we all do from time to time), ask God to change your attitude.<\/p>\n

Ask God to give you a humble spirit that esteems others better than yourself, no matter what their rank in life. (Romans 12:3) Here\u2019s a word of caution: Ask for a humble spirit. Don\u2019t ask for God to humble you. There is a distinct difference.<\/p>\n

Learn to be interested in others. Start by listening to them instead of preaching at them.<\/p>\n

Think about the many ways to give. You can give of your time, money, service, talent, kindness, concern, encouragement, and so on. Just find a way to think about and help others.<\/p>\n

Memorize Acts 20:35: \u201cIt\u2019s more blessed to give than receive.\u201d Now ask God to help you believe it!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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