{"id":2781,"date":"2015-04-12T09:00:05","date_gmt":"2015-04-12T14:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.barbdahlgren.com\/?p=2781"},"modified":"2015-04-12T22:21:59","modified_gmt":"2015-04-13T03:21:59","slug":"choose-to-let-god-take-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/barbdahlgren.com\/?p=2781","title":{"rendered":"Choose to Let God Take Control"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"keep-calm-and-let-god-take-control-2\"<\/a>In this process of learning to \u201clet go and let God,\u201d one thing hard to let go of is our desire to control others and every situation. God is the one we should want to be in control. Yet most of us prefer to manipulate others into doing what we think is best. Unfortunately, what we think is best for others and what God thinks is best may be totally different.<\/p>\n

There is nothing wrong with helping people when appropriate. We don\u2019t want to turn a blind eye to suffering or develop a \u201cgo and be filled\u201d attitude when we haven\u2019t given a needed drink of water or crust of bread. (James 1:16) The Bible encourages us to be concerned about the poor, the elderly, the fatherless, the widowed, and those less fortunate. But there is a difference between helping those who can\u2019t help themselves and helping those who refuse to help themselves or make changes that would enable them to lead better lives.<\/p>\n

We must determine when needs are legitimate. It\u2019s one thing to give a starving person a meal, it\u2019s quite another to continually loan money to a spendthrift or gambler, get a drug user\/seller out of jail, or let a deadbeat relative crash on your couch for a year or more. Yes, I know people are weak and can appear helpless, but sometimes our desire to help others causes us to intervene when perhaps we shouldn\u2019t. It\u2019s natural to want to alleviate someone’s dire circumstances, but in doing so we may be circumventing the work God is doing in a person\u2019s life.<\/p>\n

\"Galatians<\/a>God uses difficulties to draw people closer to Him and teach principles such as \u201cwhat you sow, you reap.\u201d (Galatians 6:7) When we step in and continually rescue people, we may be blocking them from receiving certain blessings from God and learning life lessons needed for physical, emotional, and spiritual maturity.<\/p>\n

God sets an example for us. We all know we are pardoned from all our sins (past, present, future) \u2013 the deliberate and accidental ones. And while it\u2019s true God has taken away the ultimate penalty for sin \u2013 death, God does not always take away the residual consequences. In fact, He rarely takes away the consequences for our actions. God loves us unconditionally, but He usually allows a circumstance to take its course. If He didn\u2019t, we would never learn any life lessons.<\/p>\n

Consider this\u2026 In our zeal to help others, could we sometimes circumvent the lessons God has built into a system so people will not habitually repeat the same mistakes? There is a difference between forgiving someone and continually bailing them out of situations. God always forgives; He doesn\u2019t always bail out.<\/p>\n

Do we really believe God can take care of a situation or do we feel He always needs our help? We need to let God be in control. God can do it. We don\u2019t have to have all the answers, we don\u2019t always have to intervene, and we don\u2019t need to react or immediately respond to every situation. When we are the ones doing it all, we are usually very proud of ourselves. Even if we give God the credit a little part of us says, \u201cWOW! Look how God used me in that situation.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sometimes we need to just get out of the way and let God do His thing. God can solve problems better than us and God knows what\u2019s best for each person. Perhaps we should learn to trust God more than we trust ourselves.<\/p>\n

Suggestions for practicing this choice\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Next time you are tempted to intervene, even if that person is a family member or friend, pray about it and ask God what you should do. Ask God what would truly be best for that person?<\/li>\n
  2. Pray for that person wanting your help. Think of prayer as your first course of action not something you do when all else fails. One of the most important things you can do for someone is to give them to God in prayer. When you have given someone to God in heart-felt prayer, you have given them the greatest gift of all.<\/li>\n
  3. Don\u2019t judge others who are weak and refuse to help themselves. This does not necessarily mean your intervention is what is best for them. Maybe you can help by listening, smiling, encouraging, and pointing them to God as you guard against getting sucked into their situation. They need your love, not your condemnation.<\/li>\n
  4. It is easier and quicker to just tell people what to do because after all, deep down inside, we really do think we know what is best for them, however \"Jeremiah<\/a>that circumvents their journey. There\u2019s nothing wrong with mentioning biblical principles but they should list their options, find resources, and form their conclusions. This is their journey, not ours.<\/li>\n
  5. Trust God. (Jeremiah 17:7-8) Ask God to help you trust Him. Circumstances come and go, but God remains constant. Trusting God is how we walk by faith, not sight. It protects us from worry, helps us wait on God\u2019s timing, and gives us the peace that passes understanding.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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